Emotions at work are a major stressor for many people. Understanding that we are really non-rational beings helps us improve our performance at work. Much of my coaching work is centered directly or indirectly on emotions. Important to note that it is not necessarily emotional work but the process inherently makes one become more aware[…]
Equine Coach has been in business for 10 years now and I still don’t have the perfect slogan or tag line for my business. I have several friends assigned to come up with something – something that might just tickle the creative juices into the perfect lightbulb moment – something descriptive summing everything up eloquently with[…]
In honour of International Women’s Day I am featuring the painting on the right, completed in 1855, by the french painter Rosa Bonheur, one of the greatest artists of the 19th century. The subject matter is the Paris Horse Fair held on the Boulevard l’Hôpital near the Salpêtrière asylum, which is just visible in the[…]
That sounds like one of those tabloid headlines designed to draw your attention because it is so nonsensical. But at Rutgers medical school that is indeed what is happening! Horses are teaching at Med School! It’s “a doctor’s presence alone, rather than their competence, that can mean the difference between life or death.” Maria Katsamanis,[…]
The Trifecta of emotional intelligence, known for short as EQ, is a combination of Mindful Leadership (ML), Awareness and Presence (A+P), and Conscious Communication (CC). Success in life depends on a few factors; if you don’t have a rich parent or spouse, didn’t win LottoMax or American Idol, or you don’t look like a movie[…]
The Fear Factor is a popular show on television and I think it speaks to one of humanity’s common denominators. Fear is an essential survival instinct designed to keep us humans alive. We are all wired with the fight/flight/freeze response to fear. […]
Authenticity, self-awareness and leadership – one of these things is not like the others. In Daniel Goleman’s excellent article The Focused Leader, written for The Harvard Business Review, he discusses emotional intelligence in terms of awareness and where the effective leader directs his attention. In terms of being an authentic leader, he asserts that a leader needs to be[…]
Have you ever walked into a room full of people and felt really uncomfortable yet couldn’t pinpoint why? Or have you had the experience of joining a group where the feeling was positive and welcoming and you immediately became infected by an ineffable sense of well-being. If you have experienced either of these situations you have encountered what psychologists refer to as an affective state, or a state of awareness that may be pre-cognitive. When something is pre-cognitive it means that information is being perceived, shared, and processed unconsciously and is not yet available to our cognitive or conscious thinking functions. In essence you are having a shared experience, being a part of a collective, being one with the herd, the flock, the school, or the tribe. Sometimes it is pleasant and other times it is uncomfortable.
While scientists are pursuing studies on topics associated with perception and neuroscience, we mere mortals often continue to struggle with some of our affective perceptions, especially in the workplace. Sometimes we are conscious of these feelings and we might refer to them as a “hunch”, “gut feeling”, “intuition”, or we might try to ignore them altogether because we can’t classify them, rationalize them, or make logical use of them.
We humans have evolved a significantly different skillset from other mammals – that of verbal language. It may be that this higher order communication skill comes with a cost – that of a loss of awareness of the information sharing that occurs through non-verbal means. Another cost is possibly the false bias that we are rational beings that experience emotions instead of the fact that we are emotional beings that are capable of rational thought. […]
What? You might well ask what the heck does that mean! Attention density and the Quantum Zeno effect are outputs of some of the learning that is being published from studies of the brain and how it functions. These ideas are also tightly aligned with effective coaching and, especially, with equine facilitated coaching. David Rock,[…]
This article has much in it that is applicable to people in so many different aspects of life. It is a story told by Jim Overstreet about his mentor and famous American horseman Tom Dorrance. In it Jim describes a lesson he learned about getting something done and encountering resistance – resistance that he created unknowingly.
One of many life lessons I have learned at the hands of a horse was about resistance – or emotional ‘stuckness’ – at the time I was in the saddle and I was trying to get something done (although I don’t remember now what that was). When I had the insight it was such a powerful experience that it has stayed with me for years and positively affected my behaviour and performance in many ways. This is the value of insight – it has the ability to change the brain and build new neuro-pathways that make the lesson stick. […]
Lately in conversation with horsewomen I have heard many say they got involved in equine activities because they were “called” by the horses. It struck me that this is not a common description of how one becomes involved in a sport or recreational activity, or even, for that matter, in a career. Linda Kohanov, author of The Tao of Equus and an innovator in the evolution of horse human relationships, speaks powerfully of being called and the profound change that occurred in her life – because she listened.
I was drawn to horses slowly and almost by accident. I always loved horses and did the occasional trail ride in my youth. It wasn’t until I read The Horse Whisperer in 1998 and discovered what I had imagined in childhood was true: the violence humans did and do to horses in the name of training, the so-called “breaking” of horses, was unnecessary and was indeed bullying at best, at worst it was sadistic. […]